Does the make of a car affect dating a girl?

[benisfroms]

Hi, I have been plagued by this question for quite some time now. What do you think? What experience has anyone had? I mean, I've seen a lot of times how girls look at expensive cars. But there are also those who do not care what kind of car you have and whether it is at all. What do you think, what more?)

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[Nikw91]

The right girl won’t care what you drive.

The wrong girl will care.

In my experience, the girls that only date guys with really nice cars will make you pay for mostly everything and not help around the house as much when it comes to cooking and cleaning… And they want expensive presents on holidays. They’re more likely to cheat on or leave you.

The girl that doesn’t care what you drive, will care about you and your needs. They will be more loyal and help you cook and clean around the house. Help pay for dinners and dates. They just want to feel cared about, small meaningful gifts on holidays.

 

[TW00Si]

Yes it does. And if you have a baby seat in the rear, it’s likely not going to happen.

 

[svvitch]

Does it matter to you what she drives?

 

[Tougefl5]

I'm all out of bubblegum lol

 

[chopsuey34]

The right girl won’t care what you drive.

The wrong girl will care.

This is correct, but let me add to it and argue for the negative: Most women don't care what car you drive unless it's:

1) Smelly inside (ie. don't make her feel gross)
2) Dirty inside (ie. don't make her feel gross)
3) Dirty outside (ie. don't embarrass her in front of her friends or family)
4) Doesn't make her feel safe (ie. a 20 year old clunker)
5) Extremely uncomfortable (ie. using your track rat with 10k coilovers as a daily)

Edit:
6) Extremely loud (ie. put your stock downpipe and exhaust back on)
7) Unreliable (ie. your car should be a reflection of you -> reliable)

By the way, if your friend has a car like this, you probably wouldn't like getting a ride from him either, right? Right. And you aren't friends with him solely because of his ride, right? Right.

(If you don't care or don't understand the above, then stop reading now because you'll be wasting your time)

So make sure your ride isn't any of the above, and it won't be an issue what you drive.

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I assume you are a young bachelor. Who else would pose such a question, and to strangers no less?

A young man who buys a hot ride projects that he has economic resources and that he's an energetic "man of action" and an "interesting guy". That is certainly a good strategy, but not one to be entirely reliant on. Some women only care about that and will want you to shower them with gifts. "If he can afford that car, he can afford to treat me right" is the motto. This is reciprocal: to a certain kind of young, ambitious, and materialistic man, a woman is in essence very similar to that piece on his wrist, his car, and his drip. But a relationship based on materialism is a dead end, I don't recommend it. She'll leave you if/when the money runs out, or you proactively set financial discipline on your (her) spending, or she matures to this thing called love that is more important that money that you can't provide.

By the way, any intelligent woman can estimate a man's salary and his expenses to see if he is spending his way into debt (Short term materialism -> who cares? Long term relationship -> no bueno). And if he cycles though cars often, she might have second thoughts that he also cycles through women just as frequently.

If the young man enjoys cars as a hobby, that's a positive for him. Having hobbies is healthy, and it shows that he enjoys something beyond the hedonistic activities like drinking or smoking pot. But if his car is his entire personality, that is a negative if she understands that there is no room for her in his life. She doesn't want to compete with his car for his attention. Mature, interesting people have multiple interests and can fit in a mature, interesting romantic partner who also has multiple interests into their lives. Even pro racing drivers and athletes that need to focus completely on that part of their lives can always find some extra time to develop a more cultured life. Anyways, infatuation in material things always leads to disappointment, better to be infatuated with God instead.

So watch out, young bachelor! What you do attracts different kinds of women. They are paying attention to what you do, how you live, how you treat friends/family/strangers and this process self-selects your pool of mates. If you don't like the types of women you are attracting, ask yourself why. If you aren't attracting any women at all, ask yourself why and why buying a car will fix that.


Let me tell you something about myself:

I exercise a lot and have decent muscles. When I was a powerlifter and a lot bigger than now, I noticed women on the street looking at me for 0.5 seconds vs. 0 seconds before. That's all muscles are good for socially. But it's not the muscles that attract women beyond that initial look, its the confidence and knowledge I've developed over years of exercising and achieving goals that attract them. How I handle myself is much more important than the actual muscles. Steroid users are busters if they think their muscles are actually doing anything. It's the personality development, stupid.

Socially, your interests are probably a dead end. When I go to parties, people complement my on my body, but the conversation quickly turns to something else. People also compliment me on my ride, but the conversation quickly turns to something else. Only exercise enthusiasts care about what I do in the gym, and only car enthusiasts care what I drive (and most of them actually don't care). Only once in my life has anyone asked me for my advice on how to lift in the gym. Most people only show superficial interest to be polite, but want to change the topic as soon as socially acceptible.

And at parties, only men care about my gym workouts and what car I drive. Keep that in mind as no chick is going to talk to you about your ride. I've only met 5 female car enthusiasts in my life who weren't the wives/girlfriends of their husband/boyfriend the car enthusiast. Your odds of finding a woman who is a genuine car enthusiast is very low but not impossible. I believe Doug from Hondata has a wife who enjoys tuning Hondas with him. All the other women out there will stop talking to you about your car after the first 2 minutes at a party or the first 2 weeks of a relationship. If you want to talk cars, that is what friends are for, not your romantic partner.

Maybe you and I should develop more varied interests that have universal appeal to both men and women? No, I have something better and easier: show interest in whatever things other people are interested in. Of all the things on this globe that can be talked about, people love to talk about themselves the most. Paradoxically, you are at your most interesting to others when you are interested in what THEY do, not in what you do. That or learn to gossip, bullshit, small talk or whatever, just as long as your mouth keeps moving and you don't say much of importance, people will enjoy your easy company.


So why will buying a car fix the fact that you don't attract attention from the opposite sex? Cars are a crutch because buying one is a lot easier than hitting the gym for years and years to change yourself for the better. You can buy whatever you want tomorrow and finance it with as little equity as you can stand to afford. And they won't improve your social skills either.

-> If you are an uninteresting person, buying a cool car will not make you any more interesting <-

You will obviously attract some attention from the opposite sex, but once you get past the 30 second initial conversation about your hot ride, you'll just be the same old schlub loser. Buying a car is not an attractive, interesting personality, that can't be bought.


(this is a garbage essay with a sloppy thesis that I wrote after I came home from the gym. Don't @ me.)

 

[Legallyfast]

This is correct, but let me add to it and argue for the negative: Most women don't care what car you drive unless it's:

1) Smelly inside (ie. don't make her feel gross)
2) Dirty inside (ie. don't make her feel gross)
3) Dirty outside (ie. don't embarrass her in front of her friends or family)
4) Doesn't make her feel safe (ie. a 20 year old clunker)
5) Extremely uncomfortable (ie. using your track rat with 10k coilovers as a daily)

This is true for most and continues when you are married.

Clean, comfortable, doesn't smell, safe, and won't break down. If the car was dirty on the outside, she would still ride with me, but I don't like my car being dirty either.

And, not too loud seems to matter the older we get too!

 

[TypeRD]

I'm all out of bubblegum lol

What does this have to do with chicks and cars? LOL!
The full quote (from the movie, They Live) : “I have come to chew bubble gum and kick ass, and I'm all out of bubble gum.”

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